Updated introduction 10/2020
I'm married (monogamous), bisexual, trans, geeky, and a proud but exhausted parent. We live in Boston, Massachusetts. I love cats, cooking, computers, and staying healthy.
Most of my posts on this instance are about my transition, which I'm pursuing with the help of a supportive & loving partner. But this is also my main Fediverse account these days so expect a lot of random geeky stuff too.
Most of my retro computer content is posted on my @danaross account.
On this instance, I use she/her pronouns.
I follow back if you look interesting. Most people do. I love the wide variety of queer & other voices that have found a home on Mastodon. But I'm not interested in your racism, sexism, or other bigotry.
Don't expect a lot of selfies. I'm sorry to disappoint.
How I use content warnings
Content warnings are one of my favorite things about Mastodon.
I understand how easily a word or situation can trigger a trip to the darkest places of your psyche. Whether you're dealing with CPTSD or recovering from addiction, the world can feel like a minefield.
I don't want my account to be part of that.
I cw things of a sexual or highly personal nature. I cw references to alcohol, drugs, and gambling. I cw talk of racist or sexist behavior.
I cw long posts like this one and use the cw as a title. Line what you see? Tap to read more. But you don't need my long rambles filling up your timeline.
Risque
Link to the video if you're, erm, interested too...
I took down some private toots from last night because I'm feeling less vulnerable about the situation.
I dreamed we bought a house and in that house everyone who had ever owned it or stayed there left a note. And now it was our turn.
It's not so overwhelming when I look at what I'm doing as part of a bigger story. And I'm proud to play my part in it and prepare things for the next person to love and thrive and pass on their joy to yet another generation.
Update: I put on makeup after lunch and I felt so much better about myself. No visible stubble, just an attractive woman staring back from the mirror.
Gay & trans slurs
God it sounds like such a fucking humblebrag but I got honked at three times on a walk today and I'm upset about it.
I've been on the other side. I know these guys have heard the message about street harassment and they don't care. They're probably proud of it.
I knew this was a risk when I transitioned. I knew it would be a problem when I started passing more. But I wasn't ready for it.
I just wanted to take a walk. I wasn't putting on a show. And these same guys would probably call me a faggot or a tranny or worse if they saw me face to face but today from the comfort of their cars I was just a woman on the sidewalk by herself and an easy target.
The other day an older man "complimented" me as I put my groceries in the car then drove off.
I don't know why I expected better in enlightened liberal Boston. Bros are bros everywhere. And this is only the beginning.
Trans woman. Geek. Wife. Parent. Cat mom. Manager.
Boston resident. Chicago born and raised.
Rarely horny on main.
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