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Updated introduction 10/2020 

I'm married (monogamous), bisexual, trans, geeky, and a proud but exhausted parent. We live in Boston, Massachusetts. I love cats, cooking, computers, and staying healthy.

Most of my posts on this instance are about my transition, which I'm pursuing with the help of a supportive & loving partner. But this is also my main Fediverse account these days so expect a lot of random geeky stuff too.

Most of my retro computer content is posted on my @danaross account.

On this instance, I use she/her pronouns.

I follow back if you look interesting. Most people do. I love the wide variety of queer & other voices that have found a home on Mastodon. But I'm not interested in your racism, sexism, or other bigotry.

Don't expect a lot of selfies. I'm sorry to disappoint.

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How I use content warnings 

Content warnings are one of my favorite things about Mastodon.

I understand how easily a word or situation can trigger a trip to the darkest places of your psyche. Whether you're dealing with CPTSD or recovering from addiction, the world can feel like a minefield.

I don't want my account to be part of that.

I cw things of a sexual or highly personal nature. I cw references to alcohol, drugs, and gambling. I cw talk of racist or sexist behavior.

I cw long posts like this one and use the cw as a title. Line what you see? Tap to read more. But you don't need my long rambles filling up your timeline.


Jesus, you look at ONE butt plug on Etsy and the algorithm thinks you want nothing but ass play in your life.

Jesus Christ what other kinds of kinky shit are they doing to the lions in Singapore??????!!!??!

Low-key Burns night tonight. Going to have some whisky and listen to some recordings of his poems.


Well, I'm sure some of them started out with kissing...

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I may have impulse bought a bunch of postcards of vintage black and white photos of women kissing and frames to go with them...

In your room
Where time stands still
Or moves at your will

Will you let the morning come soon
Or will you leave me lying here?
In your favourite darkness
Your favourite half-light
Your favourite consciousness
Your favourite slave

In your room
Where souls disappear
Only you exist here

Will you lead me to your armchair
Or leave me lying here?
Your favourite innocence
Your favourite prize
Your favourite smile
Your favourite slave

Can anybody recommend a strapless bra that is padded or pushes up and comes in a 40A? Seems A cups aren't supposed to exist above a 34 band size.😡

Thinking back to when I was on the swim team in high school.

It was back when "real men don't xxx" or "real men do xxx" was a common joke, like an online meme today. Think "real men don't eat quiche", that sort of thing.

Anyway, we wanted team t-shirts that said "real men wear Speedos".

The head of our department stopped it because "real men" was slang for gays and he didn't want our Catholic school to be seen as promoting LGBT folks.

Anyway, I should probably start shopping for a one-piece soon.

Crew neck t-shirts feel so fucking masc and send my dysphoria through the roof. I should try modifying some of these but the last time I tried it became an off-the shoulder style so I'm hesitating.


I made pasta with a lemon butter caper sauce last night and my wife said she was surprised it was kind of sweet.

I didn't have the heart to tell her that was from a freaking quarter cup of butter and just a little lemon juice.

Today I got to combine three of my favorite things: baking, a label maker, and Command hooks.

I just schlepped a 103lb carton up two flights of stairs and I want to know where y'all were with your chivalry and "ma'am" and "let me get that for you"

Harassment training included a scenario where an employee transitioned and co-workers made fun of her for dressing feminine and I've never felt so represented by HR before!

The company I work for has 12,000 people. I've never worked in a professional capacity for someplace so big!

Much of my time so far has been spent opening service desk tickets to get access to things and get my legal name off as many things as possible

Tfw you find the perfect Valentine's Day gift with just the right message but then they have to go and be all heteronormative about it.

It's not that I want a bigger chest. I'm impressed with what just a few months have done.

But I'm having a hard time finding a strapless 40A.

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