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Oh and just in case it wasn't clear, this would NOT happen in the annual *serious* survey, it would be a separate one-off obviously non-serious crowdfunder survey.

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There would be a checkbox to make sure that participants are binary-defying/-transcending in some way, and a question asking for how they describe that (nonbinary, trans, agender, etc etc), so the vibe is, "if you could ask ALL genderly interesting people any question at all..."

And then I would write up a report of the responses, so that you can find out what the best flavour of ice cream is according to nonbinary people, for example...??

- I can veto questions on ethical grounds;
- I have editorial/design control to ensure data quality, but we can discuss it before I edit;
- No questions where the answer is just a textbox, for my sanity;
- No questions about gender/sex, plurality or gender critical stuff.

Every year I get a lot of people asking me to ask questions that are outside of the scope of the survey (e.g. not about gender, not about language, etc) so this would be a chance for people to pose those questions. But also I fully expect several questions to be blatantly silly!

Your thoughts are very welcome!

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Okay I'm having an idea and I'm not sure if it's a bad one. :D Can I run it by you?

A stretch goal that would enable me to buy a better (longer-lasting) computer, and the perk is a survey where the top 10 donors can choose a question (with caveats, see below).

On the downside, Crowdfunder have scaled the prediction for the final amount raised down to quite a fancy car, which I will obviously get in purple with yellow, white and black go-faster stripes.

On the upside, 50% of the way to a good computer! 🎉✨ Thank you!

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A big thank you to everyone who's donated and shared so far - 25% raised, and well on the way to... putting a deposit down on a house, apparently??


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Would you like to chip in a couple of £/€/$ to help me upgrade my tech so that I can run the Gender Census again in 2022?

In British English, all titles (Mr, Ms, etc) are written without a full stop/period.

To my knowledge, in American English Mr and Mrs are usually followed by a period/full stop, but Miss isn't.

People who usually write in American English, which do you use?

hetero-attracted aces, do you consider yourself straight, queer, both, neither or other? I ask this without any gatekeepy bullshit, just out of interest. If you like a label, it's yours :) boosting is appreciated for larger sample size

My 6-year-old nibling is having gender feels and is thinking that maybe "demiboy" is a good identity description but is unsure, and is concerned about coming out. My sibling-in-law is helping, being nb themselves, but the kid also wanted me to weigh in as a non-cis, non-parent figure.

I experience with young childhood coming-out or with the demi identities. Does anyone know of a good set of resources for this?

request for book recs, boosts welcome 

Hi all!

One of my dear friends has a child who is beginning to question their gender identity (specifically, they have questions about what it means to be nonbinary, as they believe that they may be!).

Her kiddo is eleven and is looking for books about coming out as nonbinary and support/affirmation for those that are.

Book recs for mom and kid would be greatly appreciated. ty!

@madewokherd There are three theys:

Singular they - referring to one person, any reflexive but usually "themself", e.g. "they are a writer"

Plural they - referring to two or more people, reflexive "themselves", e.g. "they are writers"

Indefinite they - referring to an indistinct other of unknown number, any reflexive probably, e.g. "they say it's good to write what you know..."

Anyway, thanks for listening to this late-night ramble. I really enjoy the way this research and participants' feedback challenges me and forces me to reconsider concepts and shift my understanding of language, gender, and other related and unrelated ideas.

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If plural they is typed into textboxes by over 1% of participants that's a whole other situation, and it would be automatically reconsidered.

If a checkbox term or pronoun isn't accurate for you, don't choose it! Type something in a textbox instead, so I can know it's popular.

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Having said that, I am so far undecided, but leaning towards *not* including plural they. The "comparison" words that are on the list despite being chosen by under 1% of participants (binary, cisgender, etc) are gender-related words. Plural they is unrelated to gender.

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I am considering adding plural they to the checkbox list, NOT as a way to include plural people (because arbitrary inclusion isn't a reason for adding any term that is written into textboxes by under 1% of people), but because it might be useful to compare with singular they.

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I'm not going to combine two pronoun sets into one in the annual survey, because they are two pronoun sets that have different meanings and use cases, and (usually) different spellings.

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This all started because I've been asked by a few people to combine singular and plural they in the annual survey, and just call it "they" instead of "singular they", so that plural people can choose it.

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I'm thinking maybe something like:

Singular they - they/them/their/theirs/themself (plural verbs, i.e. "they are a writer")


They - they/them/their/theirs/themself (for referring to an individual, i.e. "they are a writer")

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If calling the set "singular they" on the annual survey doesn't add clarity and help people find their pronoun set, I will stop using that name, and switch to providing the meaning instead.

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