if something feels off or you're not happy with the community you've found, move! i've moved instances several times for various reasons & never regretted it. mastodon.social is fine as a starter instance but don't be afraid to try out a few different places and find a community that fits for you
I'm not sure I ever talked about this here, but a while back I released a Chrome extension to make reading long-form web content easier. It's called Longbox and you should give it a try: https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/longbox/odpmanddncjogmkejdjihcdpgbcdldij
hey so, not being out and full time past end of February is unlikely to be an option.
I do not foresee losing my contracts and income as a result, but it’s not guaranteed enough for me to feel safe
if i’m going to risk the collapse of everything I have built in order to be me, I’d like to have a backup plan.
is anyone aware of potential CONTRACT sysadmin/telecom work that’s likely to crop up?
Can add to current client list or wait
I am a registered LLC, have résumé et al.
you may boost
Had my first lunch date with someone I met via dating app (Bumble, fwiw). It went pretty well I think? She wants to do a second date, so that's something?
Also, I'm about 99% sure she doesn't know I'm trans, which is going to take some getting used to.
Obviously if this progresses I'll tell her at some point, but I see no reason to rush it. I kind of like just being another divorced lesbian with cool hair.
So this morning my ex, who wanted a divorce because she didn't think she could be attracted to me as a woman, came over to tell me she's started dating an old college roommate. Who is a hella cool butch lesbian.
Don't get me wrong, I love my ex like a sister and am happy for her, but it just doubles down on my feelings of being forever alone. 😞
Today I had my 4 week post-op with my regular doctor. I related my concerns w/ her about my torn inner labia (owww), so she took a look and confirmed that it's filling in with granulation tissue. In this case, she says, that's a good thing and means the gap will eventually (in a few months) heal up. She sees a lot of trans patients so I trust her opinion; it's nice to have reassurance from someone who's seen it in person (cell photos texted to a busy surgeon aren't as effective)
Clock in my doctor's exam room is stuck on 9:49:34, and the second hand just keeps bouncing and going nowhere. If that's not a metaphor for how time moves on a doctor's office, I don't know what is. https://lgbt.io/media/r0kHF0xFb2apzBLVY_g
And it's not like being on lgbt.io means that the discussion is All Queer, All The Time or anything, which is good, because that's just one part of who I am. But what it *does* mean is that people who gravitate here tend to share other traits that sometimes cluster *around* queerness, and I love that.
Some folks on birdsite are tagging our project account in tweets like "hey jack twitter should copy this thing mastodon does". The idea that this is merely about features is short-sighted. Twitter will never, ever, ever be your friend. They are the shareholders' friend, not yours. No feature will let you see what their engineers are working on, what's under the hood. No feature will fix their headquarters in the US following and enforcing US laws and customs worldwide.
We are a Mastodon instance for LGBT+ and alies! ☺