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Please boost if your account is safe for non-binary people. :nonbinary: :nb:

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like I would hope my account is safe for enby people because I'm one of them. us. :P

@EpicMiscreant Hmmm, I don't know :blobdetective:

I mean, I own this instance, and

Well

:flag_nb:

I'd say, probably?

@EpicMiscreant How can I tell whether my account is safe for non-binary people or not?

@Kasil Generally, if you're not posting anything offensive towards or targeting in particular (in this case) non-binary folks then it can be inferred that your account might be safe. Another way to tell is if your own opinions are dismissive of non-binary identities (as in you believe there are only two genders) or gate-keep, then your account might not be safe after all.

I put this out there to see who would boost it so I could find folks to chat with or befriend.

@Kasil @EpicMiscreant if you have to ask, it probably is safe.

because if you don't like the whole queer deal, you already know.

@EpicMiscreant sorry mine is safe for nobody i live dangerously

@blub It doesn't have to mean anything. I put this out there to see who WOULD boost it so I can find folks to chat with or befriend.

@EpicMiscreant Do you mean that the content is not offensive to these groups or what is the definition of safe here?

@marble Yes, it does refer to content that is not offensive. It also refers to whether you gate-keep or erase non-binary identities by believing that there are only two genders.

@EpicMiscreant

Est-ce que รงa ne serait pas ร  une personne non-binaire de nous dire si elle se sent ร  l'aise avec nous ou pas?

@Shinra Oui, c'est vrai, vous avez un bon point. Cela dit, j'ai รฉcrit ceci pour voir qui le boost. Cela me donne une chance de trouver des personnes partageant les mรชmes idรฉes avec qui parler ou se lier d'amitiรฉ.

@EpicMiscreant How would I be able to tell? I'd happily let Enbies be my judge and suggest how I could improve. I try to be mindful and respectful at all times but I sometimes fail at things.
/+@rhonda

@MacLemon Your response tells me what I wanted to know. My posting this was a test to see who would boost it so that I could find like-minded folks to talk to or befriend.

@EpicMiscreant hmmm, I would think yes but how can I be sure? Who am I to judge?

@narF I think if you don't post offensive things targeting non-binary identities, and you aren't gate-keeping/erasing non-binary people then your account is likely safe.

@EpicMiscreant I like to think that I don't, and I hope that reality matches with what I think.
In the end, I guess it all fall back on good intentions + actions taken if a mistake happens.

In general, I try to be an ally, but I've read so many stories of "allies" who caused more harm than helped...

@narF That tells me all I need to know. You're honest, you are striving to be open and helpful, and you are making the effort and hold yourself accountable. All very good things. ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘

@EpicMiscreant

I can't guarantee that. If someone is nonbinary and is a huge asshole, I couldn't care less about them and we probably wouldn't be good friends, but if they're really interesting, then surely we'd get along just fine! โœŒ๏ธ

That rule kind of applies to everyone I meet. The rules don't change for someone's identity, religion, or political stance. ๐Ÿ‘Œ ๐Ÿ’–

@EpicMiscreant I keep wanting to boost this! But I donโ€™t know and donโ€™t wanna lead people on. I think mine is, but is there something in particular you have in mind?

@EpicMiscreant I don't know about my account - not sure what you mean - but I think of myself as, uh, pretty much safe to befriend for #nonbinary people? Like, why wouldn't I? (OK, it was a rhetorical question - I can totally see how some people are vastly hostile to, uh, a lot of people.)

@rafu As long as you're not posting anything negative or erasing non-binary existence by suggesting there are only two genders, then you would be considered safe. :blobthumbsup:

@EpicMiscreant The thought there are only two of whatever sounds ridiculous to me nowadays.

@EpicMiscreant I wasn't sure if I was "safe" enough to repost, but I read the replies and it seems like the general idea is "If you care enough to ask, odds are you're good."

I think I am safe enough for anyone who is willing to think critically.

@EpicMiscreant I am in fact a nonbinary people, so yes. tis safe here.

@EpicMiscreant Of course my account is! Iโ€™m NB myself and want more fellow enbies to follow me! ๐ŸŒˆ

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